How might your past be holding back the best version of you?

The more energy tied up in our past, the less we have available to newly create our present.

That seems like common sense. We can just walk away from a past, right?

Well, the mind collects and stores information to better understand life. We develop neural pathways to help us function. It's how we gain proficiency to ride a bike, etc.

The strongest neural pathways we develop are those to support survival, especially from events perceived as threatening.

As children our minds have the most plasticity for learning. Also as children we have less ability to understand what is truly threatening. We often develop deep neural pathways that limit possibilities for perceiving and acting in new ways as adults.

As a small child I was often left with my grandmother. She was so happy to spend time with me, and my parents were grateful to have free time. As my grandmother became less able bodied, she needed more help from me.

At 6/7 years old this was scary. What if she fell and hurt herself? I felt guilty, ashamed, sad, and frustrated. This bundle of feelings became wrapped up with caring for a loved one in need, and were carried subconsciously into my adult life.

To clear them, I had to face them. More than anyone else, I had to forgive myself.

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